A high school friend’s husband died the other day. I am mad. Though I am feeling old, I am actually in the prime of life, and people my age should not die. Unfortunately, what should happen and what actually happens are two different things.
I am mad at my friend’s situation – a forty-two year old with two young daughters and a loving wife should not be taken from this world. His presence is needed to help shape the minds and values of his young girls, and to give life-long support to his wife, my friend.
I am mad at the injustice, the unfairness of it all – by all accounts he was a truly good man. He was loved by all those he encountered. He was not someone who “deserved” this fate.
I am mad at the viciousness of cancer – he fought a valiant fight, and for a time looked to be ahead, but the cancer came back stronger, ripping away the rest of his life.
I am mad that his, and all the other similar stories that we hear, that go unheeded – we all know people who were taken too soon. As you think of those people, those friends, those loved ones, the one common theme is that “it won’t happen to me.” I know this because of my job. I know this because very few families put an estate plan in place, in general, even fewer if under the age of 55.
Death and loss are not easy. There are no actions or magic words that make the pain of loss “all better.” However, by putting together plans, by helping clients prepare for the inevitable, we have the opportunity to make a difficult time easier, more manageable. We get to help give families the peace of mind they deserve. We get to help prepare people for one of life’s few certainties, no matter when that may happen.
Although today I am mad, I know the work we do for those who do listen to those stories make a difference in their lives. It makes me feel good.
Contributed by Morris Hall, PLLC Estate Planning Attorney, and Partner James P. Plitz.
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Dan Morris says
Jim this is a very good article. Preparing can take the sting out of an unexpected death or incapacity. Proper financial and legal can leave the family with security.