Have you ever seen members of a family divided and torn apart after their loved one passes away? Sometimes family members fight with one another over silly simple stuff that could have been avoided if the deceased had expressed his/her wishes in a letter of instruction.

For example, Aunt Mildred had numerous pieces of jewelry that she wanted her favorite niece Stephanie to receive when she passed away. Unfortunately, Aunt Mildred never wrote down her thoughts about Stephanie receiving the jewelry and Aunt Mildred’s only daughter claims she gets the jewelry. Who gets it? How much money will be spent in fighting over who is to receive the jewelry?

The following is a quick example of what topics can be included in the letter of instruction to your family.

1) Funeral Arrangements – List any arrangements and where to locate the documentation of any arrangements you have paid for. If you haven’t made arrangements yet, it’s a great idea to start writing what you would like in terms of a funeral service. Making a list of all of the people, organizations, agencies and professionals (including phone numbers, email and mailing addresses) that should be notified upon your death will be extremely helpful for your family.

2) Financial and Personal Affairs – Make a list of professionals you deal with, i.e. attorney, stockbroker, employer, insurance agent, financial planner, etc. It is also vital that you list your financial accounts (checking, savings, retirement funds, life insurance, real property ownership, etc.) so that your assets aren’t lost when you pass away. Such important personal documents like a birth certificate, marriage certificate, divorce, military service papers, etc. should be placed in a secure safe where your family can find them.

3) Distribution of Personal Effects – As in the example above with Aunt Mildred, detailing who should receive your personal possessions (jewelry, furniture, paintings, clothes, golf clubs, etc.) will help minimize confusion or disputes among your family. Also, making sure you have made plans as to who will care for your pet(s) is a good idea.

The best way to think about the instruction letter is that it provides your family with your answers to important decisions you have already made and provides a roadmap where to find other paperwork that will be helpful to those taking care of your personal and financial affairs after you pass away. Your family will be forever grateful that you took the time to prepare an instruction letter for them.

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