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Caring for an Elderly Parent – Perception is Reality when it comes to your Siblings

April 14, 2014 by Morris Hall, PLLC Leave a Comment

My wife, a home-care physical therapist, and I have an interesting perspective when it comes to seeing how the “kids” are now caring for their parents.  We get to see how the care and love that parents show their children is reciprocated when the parents can no longer, fully take care of themselves.

But, like many families, that care is not spread around the entire unit.  Both my wife’s and my parents live in New Jersey, and we both have one sibling living in relatively close proximity to them, while our other siblings, as well as ourselves, live out-of-state.  If our parents need the care and support to carry on with their lives, unless they move to we cannot provide the daily support.

And that is where the issues can arise.  The caretaker sibling has taken on a huge responsibility.  And in addition to the responsibility, is the emotional drain of seeing your parents in a weakened state.  And the non-caretaker siblings cannot fully understand the full impacts of those added burdens.

Perception is reality.

And when the non-caretakers come in for a long weekend or even a week stay, that experience may lead them to think that caring for mom or dad is pretty straight forward.  Write an extra check or two and drive a little more to bring them to the doctors, but overall a minor bump in life’s road.

What is not contemplated is the true reality.  That the caretaker has other plans, other things going on in his life.  It is not a long weekend or a vacation.  The caretaking is part of the daily routine.  And when things go wrong, like an unexpected illness, the emotional toll increases exponentially!

When the caretaker tries to vent to us non-caretakers, we may take it as complaining or exaggeration.  Our perception is that the caretaking is easy.  But the reality is so much different.

My wife and I have a chance to work with those people giving the care and support.  We see that those people need some support too.

A good estate plan helps ensure the right people have the right powers to help out when needed.  But it takes more than that to act on the plan.  It takes the support of the family.  Communication is the key.  The caretakers need to talk about the burdens, but also the pleasures of being the person who is relied on.  And the non-caretakers need to listen and offer support, in some meaningful way.  Take the time to see how the other side is perceiving the situation.  Make it a shared reality.

Working together, in support of one another will provide mom and dad with the care they need, and the relationship between the siblings can continue to grow.

Contributed by MH Estate Planning Attorney James P. Plitz.

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You have a number of options when it comes to estate planning, so why pick Morris Hall?  First off, estate planning and asset protection are a very complicated endeavor and you should only trust someone who focuses exclusively on those matters.  Also, MH is a proud member of The American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys (AAEPA) which provides us additional support, advanced training, tools and information that is not available to others – which means that we can better protect your assets and your loved ones.  We are one of only two firms in Arizona that belong to the AAEPA and are the only firm in that has been granted membership.  If you have assets and loved ones that you want to protect, you are in good hands with MH.  Contact us today at 888.222.1328 to schedule an appointment!

This blog should be used for informational purposes only.  It does not create an attorney-client relationship with any reader and should not be construed as legal advice.  If you need legal advice, please contact an attorney in your community who can assess the specifics of your situation.

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